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A GAME CHANGER……

Imagine for a moment, if you will, that every little emotion that you experience, every feeling of anxiety, insecurity, anger, frustration, every feeling of peace, calmness and wellbeing, are all created by your wonderful imagination.

This gift of being able to make up and entertain any thoughts in our mind, any reality that we choose, is an amazing thing, and whatever we make up becomes our own personal reality, a piece along the way that when all put together, becomes the movie of our life.

Can you see that? Do you really see that your complete life experience, and everybody else’s, is just a series of thoughts, end to end, and you make it all up. It’s just the way we all work, everyone of us, making movies up, all the time, and behaving as if they were real, when it’s all a product of the special effects department in our own minds.

Life happens around us, people will behave and make decisions based on their own thoughts, but all of this has no effect on how we feel, as a fact of life, because our feelings and emotions come from our own thoughts, and nothing else.

Now, just for a moment take that as being a fact of life, something that is true, and that you can hang onto, what would it mean? It would mean that whatever is going on in your life, whatever your circumstances may be, you, have the last call on how you want to think and feel about it.

Because our feelings and emotions are a direct consequence of each and every thought that we entertain, this information changes the game, no longer can we blame our circumstances or the people that are around us for how we feel.

The sense of freedom knowing that we are in control over our feelings drops any thoughts of being a victim to life’s challenges.

Seeing the individuality of each and every one of us, and the unique and varied movies that we all make up, shows us how innocent we all are, and awakens new feelings of compassion for anyone that is caught up in a “thought storm”.

So, if you are getting even the smallest glimpse of the deep common sense that runs through this understanding, you may find yourself looking at life in a different way, in a lighter way, knowing that whatever challenge comes your way, you can handle it, and be ok.

Anyone out there suffering from overuse of their thinking can really learn and benefit about what I’m talking about here, in untold ways, by arranging a personal consultation with me in the Blackrock, Co. Dublin area, or by Skype. Thank you for reading, hope you enjoyed it. Bryan


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THE ROAD BACK TO WELLNESS……

Recently I had a second session, with a client that was referred to me, and the difference in this 28 year old man, in one week, is incredible.

When he came to see me for the first session he told me his story, up to age 22 or so everything was going great with him, job, girlfriend, confidence levels etc, and then he developed pains in his stomach which was diagnosed as Crohn’s disease.

Crohn’s disease was in his family so he assumed that he was next on the list and that life for him was going to be downhill from now on, as he looked to the future and saw nothing but darkness.

For the next 5 years or so, and after 8 operations, he said he was suicidal most of the time, and he said that “I would have thrown myself over a bridge only for my parents”

He said that he was “beyond depressed”, that he was “dead inside” as his overthinking and worrying completely took over his life.

Now 1 week after his first session he is experiencing a transformational change, as he had the most calmest and peaceful week that he has ever had, and that “the noises have stopped grumbling in my stomach”.

What happened here? How could his life change for the better so quickly?

The answer lies in his now, new, understanding about how his negative overthinking and worrying has been inflaming his Crohn’s disease, way beyond what it might have been. It is said that 95% of all diseases is caused by chronic stress.

He sees now that as he allows his thoughts to keep moving, they do, and what turns up instead is a greater sense of wellness and peace of mind, automatically.

He wonders now, what came first? Crohn’s disease or his thoughts about Crohn’s.

Early days for this guys road back to wellness, but it shows how powerful our thinking is and how it effects our body in such a direct and all inclusive way.

A calm mind allows the body to work the way it is supposed to work, it allows the immune system to heal anything that needs healing, as this is the natural inbuilt resilience that is hard wired within us all.

Chronic stress, anxiety, worry and insecurity messes up our lives, and takes us away from the innate health that is always within us all, and is all caused by the thoughts that we make up, and innocently believe to be real.

It causes us to behave in ways that we would not normally do when we are calm and thinking straight.

Anyone suffering from emotional stress, worry and insecurity can learn more their road back to wellness by having a session with me in the Dublin area or by Skype. Hope this is helpful. Thanks for reading.


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DOES BINGE EATING MAKE US FEEL BETTER?…….

Binge eating fools us into thinking that it’s the food that is making us feel better, when it’s not the food that is creating the feeling, but our thinking, and only our thinking, as it’s a closed system.

All that food that we innocently thought gave us a feeling of relief from the daily drudgery that we experience as our lives, has nothing to do with how we feel, and did nothing more than pile on the weight, and cause damage to our bodies.

When we see this deeply, we won’t be fooled anymore. If the good feeling that you are looking for is created by your thinking, and only your thinking, why would you keep on binge eating?

This is the type of insight that my clients get when they come to see me for a chat, as their level of understanding rises, and they learn about a fact of life that we have not been taught about in schools, or anywhere else, because no one really knew, except a few, up to this.

And it’s not just the food, it’s the alcohol, or the gambling, or the cigarettes, or any other so called “addictions” that we do, that for a brief period of time we innocently think makes us feel better.

To see deeply that we live in our own private world of thought, our own virtual reality game, which we are in complete control of, frees us from the mistaken belief that the outside world has anything to do with our feelings and emotions.

To see that there is no need to “fix” anything on the outside in order to feel good, and enjoy peace of mind and contentment, is profoundly liberating, and updates our belief operating system, putting us back in control of our lives.

To understand that what we experience as reality, is only the current movie that’s playing in our minds – which we have created from the special effects department, which is available, around the clock to us all.

When you get a glimpse of what’s really happening, it’s game over, as the rock hard beliefs of the past, firstly get shaken, and then crumble out of sight, making way for the foundations and continued learning of a whole new way of looking at things.

For anyone interested in finding out more about all of this, please get in touch, and we can skype or meet in person. To anyone close to Dublin, I’m giving an evening talk in Mount Merrion Community Center, on November 7th 2016. Please see details on facebook or website, events page.


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WHEN ANXIETY STRIKES……..

Anyone out there suffering from anxiety, please consider reading this story, about a young woman who came to see me in my clinic.

She is in her early thirties, just married, and as she says herself, “I have everything that I need, money, lovely husband, dog etc, but I still suffer from anxiety and panic attacks”.

She says “I have always had anxiety, I was a very shy child, and all I could do was cope, and manage my anxiety”.

She also said that, “I could not go to work, I thought I was losing my mind” and saying to myself, “I have to do this, or, I have to see this person”.

To her this is the norm, life is just difficult and the best anyone can do is just cope as best as you can, and this is what she does, as best as she can.

So her thinking is all over the place, and her body is out of balance, because it’s been marinating in toxic chemicals like adrenalin, which is causing the feeling of anxiety and panic, and it’s this feeling that causes her to behave as a result.

She unconsciously and innocently believes, that the feeling of anxiety, that leads to a panic attack is caused by events, circumstances and other people that surround her in her life, and she goes about trying to fix them all.

She knows that there is a feeling of peace and serenity that she has experienced in the past, and she would like to experience it more.

And then, when she learnt and deeply understood, that the only thing that was causing her feelings and emotions was her thinking, and nothing else, everything changed in a heartbeat.

Because now, she sees that she has complete control over how she feels, as it is just her illusionary thinking that is doing it, created by herself, and since she has free will over what thinking and movies she wants to watch, it’s game over.

She now says “I learnt that nothing is broken, and that there was nothing that I needed to do”.

She saw all the thought patterns that she used to use that started in anxiety, and developed into a full blown panic attack, as she wrecked her head trying to figure it all out.

When she saw how all of this worked, and how easy it was, she said she “experienced a huge feeling of relief, and knew that she could go out tonight if she wanted”.

And so after only a couple of sessions her life has been transformed in a way that she never thought possible.

So anyone out there who is suffering please give me a call and come to see me for a few sessions, or (skype calls) and learn about how we all work as human beings, and experience our individual lives.


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NOT BROKEN – NEVER WAS……….

Anyone out there suffering from so called “addictions”, might be curious to know how on earth, someone who has been “addicted” to gambling for 4 years, all of a sudden stop, as a result of seeing through the illusion of the label.

A 23 year old guy came to see me for a “gambling addiction”, he said that “I think that I am always going to win, despite all my losses”. “I am lying to people about where I am going, “I am lying to people about what I am spending my money on”.

Now, this is a smart guy who has just been promoted to manager in his retail technology job, he understands that what he is doing, gambling all his money away, is stupid, but his belief on one crucial point is mistaken.

He thought that the action of gambling was making him feel good, and so when he passed by the “gambling stores” he fell for the special offers, and went inside, and enjoyed the feeling, thinking that it was the action of gambling that was causing him to feel so good.

Except, it was not the action of gambling that was making him feel good – it was his thinking, full stop!

Now, 1 week later, when he came to see me for the second time he is a totally different guy with a whole new perspective on life.

He now understands completely that he can get the good feeling, anytime, by simply allowing his thinking to keep moving. He spent all week passing by the gambling stores and saw how silly he used to be, fooled by an innocent misunderstanding about what was making him feel good.

He said, “What’s the point of gambling now when it has nothing to do with how I feel?”

He said also that, “I feel relief with this understanding, as I see so clearly now, that I am not broken, and never was”.

He sees how this changes everything about how we view anxiety, panic, fear and lack of confidence, and he put his new understanding to good use when dealing with an elderly customer who was annoyed in the store.

He saw that it was because this customer did not understand technology and it was their thinking about this, that had them confused and angry. So he explained in a very calm way that it was quite easy, and they would be up and running in no time. The customer relaxed and the deal was done.

I see this type of change all the time in my practice, and it is so invigorating to be able to teach and point people who are suffering, down a different path to a nicer feeling, that they may never have known existed.

To know that we are all ok, and we will always be ok, no matter what, makes life lighter, and not so serious. To let our thoughts move and flow, blends into and aligns with, an already there perfect system that looks after us always.

The “Missing Link” as Sydney Banks talks about is the understanding about the true nature of thought, and how we, as formless intelligent energy, are all living in the human feeling of our thinking”, all the time.


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BEING FOOLED NO MORE………

A client of mine came to see me not so long ago, she was binge eating on food, and putting on a lot of weight.

It was clear from our conversation that she was living with a lot of anxiety, fear and pain in her life, and she said that, “the only time that I feel good in any way, is when I am eating all this food”.

She is doing all of this eating because she thinks that it’s the food that is giving her some sort of relief from the pain  and suffering that she is experiencing.

This is the typical, innocent story that I hear all the time from my clients, whether it’s the food, or the alcohol, or the cigarettes, or the gambling, it’s their way of getting a small bit of relief from the daily drudgery that becomes their life.

Except it’s not the food or the booze or the fags that’s making them feel better, and this is where the innocence comes in, what has caused them to feel better, is quite simply, that their thinking has changed, because the only thing that creates feelings is our thinking, 100%, as a fact of life.

Can it be this simple? Are we really doing all of this stuff because we misunderstand where our feelings and emotions are coming from? Yes and yes.

This misunderstanding that we have all grown up with has caused us all a lot of problems, to say the least, because the truth about what really causes our emotions and feelings, goes across the board, and is true for all areas of our lives.

In our innocence we contaminate an already there, beautiful and peaceful feeling, by believing that it’s our circumstances that cause us to feel anxiety or fear, or a family member that’s treating us a certain way causing us pain, or finances, bully at work, the list goes on and on.

This singular mis-understanding , it could be said, is the cause of all conflict in the world, and we are only starting to wake up to this fact, as this information spreads, and changes people’s lives in un-thought-of ways.

We really are only one thought away from feeling better in any moment, and that’s a fact, whether we know it or not.

If we know it and understand it deeply, the game changes overnight, the trick that fooled us all, time after time, just does not have the same effect on us anymore.

This change, which comes with the understanding, is the “contamination” falling away, and what’s left is the peaceful, contented feeling that is hard wired within all of us, as the sun shines through when the haze disintegrates.


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FALLING BACK INTO PEACE OF MIND…………

Our bodies are amazing, made up of 50 trillion cells, each cell like a miniature human being, with all the functions of a human being.

We really are a colony of intelligent cells, all working together in perfect harmony, the perfect model for how a society can live in peace and co-operation.

The body works perfectly, and every cell knows exactly what to do.

Each cell is affected, moment to moment, by the environment, which is the blood, and the blood is affected, moment by moment, by the chemicals within it, which are created, by the wonderful, creative, movie making capability, which is our thinking.

Our thoughts, which we make up, are marinating our bodies in chemicals, which create our feelings and emotions.

Our emotions and feelings are giving us perfect, moment to moment feedback, about the quality of the movie that we are making up, like a fuel gauge in a car tells us about the level of petrol in the tank.

So, we are having a direct effect on our cells, the very fabric of our bodies, by the thoughts that we entertain in our minds.

Like a balance sheet there really are only two moods that we as human beings fluctuate to and from, negative feelings caused by negative thinking, or positive feelings caused by positive thinking.

The free will, which we all have, allows us to choose our thoughts, and is the rudder that we have for our ship that enables us to navigate our journey with more elegance, and spend more time feeling well, confident and secure.

There is a natural intelligent system, before thought, that is running the system perfectly, and is hindered and contaminated by any negative thinking that we allow ourselves to ruminate on.

When we let our thinking soften, not take it so seriously (after all we make it all up), and let the system run itself, it does, and we can go along for the ride.

Thinking needs to be done, but not all the time, in fact the more that we allow ourselves to go with the flow, and fall back into the ocean of oneness that is the real us, the more that we have a nicer life.

A clear mind uncontaminated by thinking is our default, natural place to be, and the very essence and source of who and what we all are.

This is where our true home is, where we feel confident and secure, and aligned with which we are all a part of, universal mind, fueling and running the whole show.

This is where peace of mind and contentment hang out, on the inside, our true nature, an oasis of peace and security that never goes away, and can’t be broken.


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THE HOLE IN THE SOUL……

Recently I finished up 4 sessions over a couple of months with a client, a man in his forties who lived with the notion of suicide on a daily basis.

He came to see me as a result of a story about a client of mine that I had written about in Ireland’s “A lust for life” mental health website, where something about the truth about the 3 principles, and the possibility of recovery, and the whole new wonderful life that my client was now experiencing, clicked with him.

This is a guy who was a chronic alcoholic up to a number of years ago, who suffered from severe depression and bipolar disorder, which had got much worse as a result of giving up the drink, which had been masking the terrible pain he was feeling, and now was back with a vengeance.

He had to be admitted to St Patrick’s Hospital for 4 months as a result of the madness that was going inside his head, and ended up retiring early as a result of bullying in his job.

This is what he said to me, “I didn’t think much of myself, but I was all I could think about”. He said he had a “Hole in his Soul” and “something missing from birth”.

Someone had said to him as a child that “there’s a want in you” that he took as criticism, and a premonition of terrible things to come.

He had read all the self help books, and has been going to AA on a regular basis, where the sense of community was something that he could hold onto.

Now he has really taken to the teachings of the 3 principles, and this new understanding for him has changed his whole life around.

He sees that yes, he does have a choice over the thoughts that he wishes to entertain in his head, and as a result is feeling so much better, because his wellness is now coming to the surface.

When the tension of thinking about something horrible loosens itself, what turns up in its place is the ever growing feeling of peace, which reveals the true essence of who we really are.

Once the foundations of an untrue belief begin to crack, it’s only a matter of time before it disintegrates completely.

He came over to London recently to the 3 principles conference and was so pleased to see such a genuine truth, and understanding being shared by 750 people, from all walks of life and many countries, that he felt the real sense of community that is only found deep in the soul.

Now he said to me “the hole in the soul, is very small” and he has a “foundation” with which to build his new life now.

He is looking forward to all the possibilities and the choices that he has at his doorstep, from awakening his passion for music and writing, to really connecting with his wife and son on a level that he never thought possible, as little as a few months ago.

His 20 yr old son cannot get over the difference in his father, his new lightness, and they are connecting now on a completely different level, going to his sports events and being the father that was missing for so long.

His wife, who so wonderfully stood by him all these years, and never gave up, when he was a nightmare to live with, has now got the man she loves back in her life again. How cool is that?


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THE WELLNESS NEVER GOES AWAY…….

Sometimes it looks as if wellness has left us, as sickness and physical challenges come into our lives.

It can be difficult to see that regardless of the circumstances that we may face, there is still a place of peace inside of us, that we all have access to, and is our true nature.

I had a client recently who was suffering from a lot of stress as a result of worrying about a family member who was facing a serious operation and may not survive.

The incredible thing is that this person who was facing the operation was in an amazing state of peace of mind, blood pressure was low, already planning in her own mind, all the things that she was going to do, when she got better.

What a wonderful example of the innate resilience that is within us all, the innate wisdom to find that place where we can go, that place of home, where we can be at peace, regardless of the circumstances.

And to know also, that all of us are connected to each other, at energy level, and passing into the next world is like casting off a set of clothes, as the human form dissolves back into the energy that is our true nature, before this human journey.

This life that we all get to experience is like a banquet of unlimited magnitude, and we have the choice to partake in it, as little or as much, as we so desire.

When we see what this life is like, from our true nature, it looks like a banquet, with all sorts of possibilities, no matter what.

The trick is not to be fooled by the illusion of life, it’s the illusion that makes it a fun game or not.


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